Worksheet for writing your own version of the steps

This worksheet is taken from The 12 Steps as a Structure for the Work of Transformation.  Refer to that work for explanation of terms or concepts.  The 12 Steps... is available as a free download at the link in the footer of this document.
I've added a Step 0 for what happens before you get to your first meeting.  This is actually the hard part, the part I have to do in order to know which 12-step meeting I need to go to!  Fortunately, I can change it as I go along.  All I need to get started is a statement of my desire for change, even if it's, "I'm not happy with my life as it is."
As a generic name for what I want to change, I will call this The Problem.
 
Question	Author's generic answer	Your answer	 How might I accomplish that?	
Step 0: What do I want to change?	Whatever is most depriving me of the life I want.	 	
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12 steps: What do I need this trip through the steps to do for me? 	Take me from "something's gotta change" all the way to living a healthier and happier life.  This includes finding the power to stop problem behavior and making a life I don't want to escape from.  	 	

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Step 1: What do I need step 1 to do for me?	Make me willing to stop trying things that don't work. 
	 		
 Step 2: What do I need step 2 to do for me?	Allow me to go forward on the assumption that there is a real answer.
Once I’ve stopped the old, I need something new but don’t yet know what it is.  Likely, I've been doing ineffective things because I don't know any effective ones.  But I can't let that stop me.  What will allow me to go forward?
	 		
Step 3: What do I need step 3 to do for me?	Commit myself to changing whatever needs to change, despite the pain and disruption.
Making a list of the qualities I want to be guided by and then committing myself to serve those qualities can be a good way to see that life has to be better if I do this, even though I may pay a price in lost relationships or pushback from dysfunctional systems I am part of.
	 		
Step 4: What do I need step 4 to do for me?	Produce a list of obstacles to my having the new life I want.
One way to generate the list is to try giving up the problem behavior and see what happens.  If I get bored, that goes on the list, if I start other compulsive behavior I can examine the feelings and needs that are driving me.
I am collecting data on how I currently act and where things go wrong.
			
Step 5: What do I need step 5 to do for me?	In step 5, I get outside perspective on the list, because my own thinking has failed. 
 			
Step 6: What do I need step 6 to do for me?	List the strategies that take me astray and the needs behind them.
Lose any emotional investment I have in the old behaviors. 
 			
Step 7: What do I need step 7 to do for me?	Give me better strategies for meeting my needs. 
	 		
Step 8: What do I need step 8 to do for me?	Where might I have used my new answers in past situations? This question integrates them into my social thinking.
	 		
Step 9: What do I need step 9 to do for me?	Which of those badly handled situations can I put right now?  By using past events to change my relationships with people, I protect myself from temptation before it arises. 	 		
Step 10: What do I need step 10 to do for me?	Turn my step-7 answers into habits. Each night I review the day to see whether I used all the new behavior that was called for.  	 		
Step 11: What do I need step 11 to do for me?	Perhaps more than any other, step 11 differs from person to person and from time to time. It opens the door wide on whatever keeps us growing and fulfilled, integrating our new ways into areas other than the original problem.  Where 8 and 10 deepen our perception, 11 broadens it.  	 		
Step 12: What do I need step 12 to do for me?	Help me launch a new life.